Create the Relationship You Actually Want
Move beyond surface-level fixes and heal what’s actually driving disconnection
You’ve Tried Talking It Through… But Something Still Isn’t Changing
Maybe you’ve read the books.
Maybe you’ve had the same conversation—over and over again.
Maybe you’ve learned communication tools, but in the moment, something takes over.
You find yourselves:
Repeating the same arguments
Feeling misunderstood or unseen
Walking on eggshells or shutting down
Questioning if things will ever truly feel different
Wondering when will you have intimacy again
And beneath it all… there’s a quiet knowing:
This isn’t just about communication.
The SPARCS Assessment: Your Starting Point
Before we try to “fix” anything, we get clear on what’s really happening.
The SPARCS Assessment is a powerful tool that identifies:
Your core relational patterns
Your triggers and emotional responses
Your protective strategies
The dynamic between you and your partner
Instead of guessing, we map your relationship with clarity and intention.
This becomes your roadmap for change.
Ways to Work Together
🌿 Consultation Call
A starting point to explore what’s happening in your relationship and what support would be most helpful.
We’ll:
Talk through your current challenges
Identify initial patterns
Determine if this work is the right fit
🔍 Deep Dive Session
A focused, powerful session designed to create clarity and immediate insight.
Ideal if you:
Feel stuck in a specific pattern
Want a deeper understanding of your dynamic
Need direction on next steps
→ Book a Deep Dive Session. 75-90 minutes @ $275
Initial sessions are available virtually, generally Monday through Friday. Some evenings are available by request. Future sessions can be done virtually or in person as arranged with Christie.
The Programs and Packages
🌱 Ongoing Packages
For couples or individuals ready for real, lasting change.
Packages include:
SPARCS Assessment integration
Personalized roadmap for your relationship
Ongoing sessions to shift patterns at the root
Support in developing your wise adult and relational capacity
This is where transformation happens—not just insight, but integration.
This Work Is For You If…
You’re ready to go deeper than surface-level communication tools
You want to understand why you react the way you do
You’re committed to personal responsibility and growth
You desire a relationship that feels safe, connected, and fulfilling
The Relationship You Want Is Possible
Not because you try harder.
But because you understand differently… and respond differently.
When you heal the patterns beneath the conflict,
you don’t just improve your relationship—
You change the way you show up in love.
It’s Here! Just the SPARK you were looking for in your relationship. SPARCS© for Couples Packages options:
* 3 months or 6 months
*Couple’s Intensive is a day long focused intentional work
Package 1: 3 months + Intensive. $2937 (savings of over $600)
Package 2: 6 months + Intensive. $4497 (savings of over $700)
Package 3: 6 months. $3597 (savings of $297)
Packages are designed with you in mind. The SPARCS© Assessment guides you through your strengths as a couple and areas needing improvement. From there, we meet regularly with real and practical tools of support.
I believe most of the change that couples make happen in their own lives, not the counseling room…so in between sessions, you get real life assignments to support our work and your progress as a couple. ~ Christie
The deep dive option supports couples wanting a change NOW. It takes you out of your busy life and constant commotion, to deeply focus your time and attention towards one another.
What you receive: over 3 or 6 months you’ll be supported with the following
1 Day Intensive (package 1 and 2): personalized 1-day intensive to focus on deep work
Meet on site or virtually, lunch on your own
Couples work sessions: 6 month packages include 12- 75 to 90 minute sessions (meeting every 2-3 weeks) virtually. (In person in the Madison, WI area). 3 month packages include 6- 75 to 90 minute sessions
Assessment: Receive my signature assessment tool for couples ($27)
On-going support in between sessions
Google document to keep track of homework
Text access for quick check ins
“Your relationship health is the fundamental area in your life that will move you from survival to feeling like you are thriving and happy in life.”
About Christie Bemis
Christie Bemis is a seasoned psychotherapist, sex educator, relationship coach, and author with over 20 years of experience helping individuals and couples unlock deeper connections and embrace their true potential. Known for her direct yet compassionate approach, Christie blends a vast knowledge base with a relatable style, making her a trusted expert in mental health, intimacy, and personal empowerment.
As a sought-after speaker and podcast guest, Christie shares her insights on topics ranging from relationships and sexual health to self-empowerment. She also hosts the Ignite Your Life with Christie Bemis podcast, where she connects with listeners across multiple platforms.
Christie is trained in the Somatica® Method for building intimacy and relationships and is a certified Level 1 provider of John Gottman's relationship work. Additionally, she is a Certified Sex Therapy Informed Practitioner and is currently advancing her training with Terry Real in Relational Life Therapy to become a certified practitioner.
In 2010, Christie founded Hot Pink YOUniversity to empower women to live lives filled with passion, purpose, and play. She continues to operate under this brand, offering transformative experiences for women. In 2018, she launched Bemis Psychotherapy and Consulting, where she works with women, men, and couples in all relationship configurations to reignite their passions and create more fulfilling lives. In addition, Christie was the Director of Professional Education and Outreach for Back to the Body: Sensuous Retreats for Women. Through this work, she focused on expanding people’s understanding of sexological bodywork as a source for healing, expanding one’s understanding of their arousal and erotic expression.
You can explore her NEW assessment for couples, SPARCS© as well as her coaching services, book, wisdom cards, and other offerings atwww.christiebemis.com.
Because couples work takes time, Christie is available for 3 or 6 month commitment. we can discuss details of what that looks like on a consultation time. Want to really dive in deep? Intensives for couples are also an option. A full day or more to provide a complete individualized experience for you both and really support your goals. What I find is that couples are incredibly busy, when we decide to really dive in for an intensive, whether that is one full day or an amazing weekend away, with a dash of romance splashed in, we really begin to move the issues and begin on the path towards transformation.
communication & conflict
It is not a bad thing to have conflict. In fact, I see it as a normal and very connected dynamic to have. It is how the conflict is managed, communicated and resolved that is the key. Don’t be scared of conflict, it means you are both emotionally plugged into the relationship and wanting something different. Together we work on:
Boundaries
Communication
Expression of Needs
Conflict Resolutions Skills
Ending Negativity that gets you nowhere
Increasing Intimacy, Communication & Deepening Connection
“Conflict managed well, leads us to a higher level of intimacy and connection.”
Getting back to sex & Intimacy
The key difference in just friendship, just roommates.
Yet, the most frequent thing to lose in a long-term, committed relationship. Together we explore where sex fits into your partnership and how to prioritize intimacy that is sustainable for a busy and full life. We set you up for sexual satisfaction that can last the years and through life’s most stressful times. That is what I like to call Sustainable Erotic.
**** All types of relationships are welcome, heterosexual, monogamous, open, polyamorous, same-sex, dating and married. SPARCS© has supported a variety of dynamics because the tools are essential for ALL relationships.
Coaching with Christie allows an outside observe with years of experience and expertise into the dynamics and patterns of your relationship. We use all the tools in the toolbox, from Imago work and attachment styles, to somatic experiences that allow you to learn in real time and through observation and instruction on sexuality and intimacy, to all the tools in Gottman’s work with with couples. We take from the very best in the field of sex, love and intimacy, and make sure you create SPARCS© around what brought you together in the first place.
Have a quick question? email Christie at Hotpinkyou@gmail.com.
Whether you are an individual or a couple, intensives can be the right option for you. Half and Full day options are available. In person or virtual options are also available. In persons take place in the Madison, WI area, for travel outside of the Madison area, let’s talk. I can work with you on travel expenses to bring me to YOU!
Half Day Includes:
Individualized curriculum, tailored to your needs
A 60 minute assessment prior to getting together
3-4 hours of deep dive work together
Light snacks and refreshments for our time together
Movement and breaks
A follow up virtual session within 30 days
A Full Day Includes all of the above and:
A beautifully prepared lunch
Dinner out to celebrate your big wins at an area restaurant
Why a person might choose an intensive over coaching ongoing?
Some people and couples choose to deep dive
An acute issue needs attention NOW!!
Too busy, my calendar is full of commitments and I find it hard to get in to regular coaching sessions
I prefer to be in person or have you come to me for this work
I like to have your undivided and personalized attention
I like the idea of doing intensive work together, then break to integrate or move my body, then dive in again.
Intensives can be for one or more days, ask me how to create an incredible individualized schedule for our time together. Discounts are available for booking more then one day together.
Pricing:
Half Days start at $750 Full days at $1400 Pricing varies for virtual and in person and wants and desires above what is listed above. Travel to another destination can be determined and priced together. Multiple date bookings can also result in a savings.